When I was single, I dated several Mormon Asian girls for various periods of time. As a happily married man I have to drop my knowledge and wisdom of the dating market before I lose it. Lots of men these days get a case of the Yellow Fever and want to know about dating Asian girls. Here’s what I learned from my experience dating Mormon Asian girls. My guide isn’t so much about how to meet, attract and seduce Mormon Asian girls. You can find that information elsewhere. My guide is about what to expect with Asian girls on and after the first date.
Dating Asian girls is a good way for socially inexpereinced men to get success in the dating market. In America men just starting out in the dating game are forced to date unattractive and overweight American women. Average American men who don’t have much experience and success in the American dating market can date Asian girls as a way to get experience dating women who actually look like women. Dating Mormon Asian girls can be a great way for you to get your feet wet in the dating market. So what do you need to know about Mormon Asian girls before you dive into the Asian girls dating market?
Asians have a different sense of right and wrong than westerners. Even Mormon Asian girls have the Asian sense of right and wrong. In Asian culture, they have a shame culture while in the west we have a guilt culture. Very briefly in guilt culture we believe that there are a series of rules that we are expected to obey. When we violate these rules we feel bad. We feel bad because we feel like we violated a rule. In guilt culture we feel like we are supposed to obey the rules because they are there and the rules exist to be obeyed.
In shame culture, the rules exist to let people know that if you get caught violating one of the rules, then people will look down on you. Now here’s the thing in shame culture, if you don’t get caught breaking the rules, then you can do whatever you want. In shame culture you haven’t sinned until somebody catches you. Even many Mormon Asian girls believe that the commandments are a series of actions that if people find out you are breaking the rules then people will look down on you.
Implications of Shame Culture on Mormon Asian Girls
- Status Uber Alles. If there’s a public perception that knowledge of dating you lowers her status, then a Mormon Asian girl will never publicly date you, no matter how much she likes you. If the gossip monster gets to her then she won’t go out with you. If there’s a Mormon Asian girl in your ward who you want to go out with, then you better make sure that she feels confident that her relationship with you will stay secret.
- The Law of Chastity only exists if others know that she is sleeping with somebody. Don’t be shocked to find out that the cute innocent Mormon Asian girl in your YSA ward is perfectly willing to push sexual boundaries well beyond where Heavenly Father set them. If you fall into temptation with her, don’t be surprised to find out that she is still going to ward temple night, and giving her testimony in fast and testimony meeting. After all in her mind if nobody found out about it, then it wasn’t a sin.
- Truth is whatever raises her status in the group. A lie is just something that makes her look bad to others, Truth is something that makes her look good to others. Just let the implications of that sink in.
Upside from Dating Mormon Asian Girls
We’ve talked about some serious pitfalls when it comes to dating Mormon Asian girls because you need to be savvy about them. However there are lots of potential benefits to dating Asian women. Let’s look at some advantages from dating Asian women.
- Mormon Asian girls generally are in better physical shape than American girls. Nobody wants to date a fatty. Dating fat women leads to all kinds of health problems in your future kids.
- Asian women perceive White men as having higher status than Asian men. In general western men are higher status than Asian men. Also Asian men are incredibly beta. Asian men are so beta that your average BYU dork is a major alpha male by comparison.
- Generally speaking western men are taller than Asian men. Women like taller men. If you are taller than your dating market competition then you are a big step ahead in the dating game.
- On average western men are “bigger” than Asian men. We all know that size matters. We like to pretend that it doesn’t but it does. Even nice sweet Mormon Asian girls want a man who is “bigger” than run of the mill Asian men.
What to Expect with Asian Women
- She isn’t going to want anybody to know what she is up to. She doesn’t know if dating you is going to make her look good or bad, so she isn’t going to tell anybody. You have to make sure to protect her secrecy and not tell anybody either.
- Expect her to work to get onto your good side early. Mormon Asian girls are a lot socially savvier than their American competition. They know how to make men like them and they know what men want. The start of a dating relationship with an Asian girl is always awesome, whether or not it stays that way is another issue.
- When you bring an Mormon Asian girl to meet your family or friends, expect her to bring gifts and trinkets to your family or friends. Asians are savvy about how to get on people’s good side and want to put their best foot forward.
- With Asian women their layers of secrecy and manners help to always make them look really good at the start of a relationship. It only is after months of being with them that you find out their real character. As Mormon Asian girls have more and more time in a relationship with you, they will reveal more and more of their character. Watch for red flags early in the relationship because they may very well be their true character shining through. Don’t run off and marry an Asian girl after 2 weeks because she’s the best woman you’ve ever met, even if it seems true at the time. The side of her that you are seeing may very well be the best girl who you’ve ever met, but that doesn’t mean that it’s the side of her you will be living with.
- Mormon Asian girls like money and will expect you to spend money on them. All Asians like money. At first it might just be stuff in the normal dating process. However it can quickly escalate to them demanding shopping trips and vacations from you. A good Asian woman keeps her money demands to reasonable levels. Watch out if after 2 to 3 months of dating her money demands start to go up.
Dating Mormon Asian girls can be a great way to improve your dating options and increase your confidence. Generally you can date Asian girls 2 to 3 points higher than the ranking of White girls. For example if you can only successfully date White girls who are 4’s and 5’s, you should be able to successfully date Asian girls who rank anywhere from a 6 to an 8 and probably closer to the 8 than the 6. Beware that Asians have different morality standards than Western women. This includes Mormon Asian Girls. Before you get into a serious relationship with a Mormon Asian girl take 4 to 5 months to make sure that her private life actions are acceptable to you. If you get an opportunity to date a Mormon Asian girl, I recommend you do it. Just be careful and don’t rush into anything and be careful behind closed doors.
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